Infidelity and Extramarital Affair Recovery Resource

Knowledge about Emotional and Marital Infidelity Eases Your Pain, Reclaims Your Confidence and Helps You Survive the Infidelity Crisis

Dr. Robert Huizenga
The Infidelity Coach

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I’ve listened closely to thousands of individuals and I’ve coached hundreds of couples. I receive scores of e-mails each week from hurting people overwhelmed and confused with infidelity.I listen well. I learn.I collated this resource e-book for you:Infidelity: Discovery to Recovery – 4 Predictable Stages on Your Journey and Resources for Each Stage. To tease you, here’s some of the content.The e-book begins with 4 coaching scenarios. I elaborate on each:

I’ve listened closely to thousands of individuals and I’ve coached hundreds of couples. I receive scores of e-mails each week from hurting people overwhelmed and confused with infidelity.I listen well. I learn.I collated this resource e-book for you: To tease you, here’s some of the content.The e-book begins with 4 coaching scenarios. I elaborate on each:

  1. Mary’s Caribbean Fling. Mary clearly stepped into the #6 Affair: to prove her desirability. Follow the dialogue as Bill, (an ex Navy Seal) “charges neutral” and not merely saves the marriage but discovers deeper intimacy.
  2. A 43 year old woman struggles to end her affair relationship with a 21 year old man/boy from her work. “I know I should break it off, but how?” What’s behind her inability to break it off?
  3. Jane discovered her husband had a 3 year affair. 6 months after DD (day of discovery) Jane is internally bombarded with questions and the need to know details. Her husband says, “Forget it! It’s over!” Jane wonders if she has the “right” to know.
  4. Joan had it all – house, great car, money – except a “caring” husband. So, she asked for a separation (to rattle his cage). He responded by having an affair! And, now says he won’t give it up. Revenge at its best!

After an elaboration on the 4 coaching scenarios the four stages are outlined and resources are given for each:

Stage 1: Calm yourself and become non reactive. Begin to calm the rage, sadness, disbelief, confusion, pain, powerlessness.Resources:?

  • How to Hold your Feelings
  • 10 Simple Things to Do When the Feelings are Intense
  • Stepping Out of the Realm of Fear
  • Emotional Affairs
  • and more…

Stage 2: Unhook and shift the focus. Learn what being “stuck” means and how to get “unstuck.”

Resources:

  • Are you Fooled or Fueled: Examine your sources of motivation.
  • Am I addicted to sex?
  • Drama is a Drain
  • Addictions and Conditions: 100 Question Test
  • and more…

Stage 3: Develop Awareness of Your Situation and Formulate Strategies to break free from the affair.

Resources:

  • Dealing with Rejection
  • 6 Reasons why Sexual Activity May Increase after the Affair is Discovered
  • 16 Ways to Know if s/he is REALLY Changing
  • Nature’s Plan for Healing
  • Learning to Trust Again
  • and more…

Stage 4: Redesign of life and relationships. More intimacy. More depth. More understanding. More passion. More hope. More trust. More power.

Resources:

  • Be a Powerful Communicator
  • 101 Attitudes and Characteristics of a Super Satisfying Love Relationship
  • Smile??!!!
  • and more…