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Infidelity: What’s the Brain Got to Do with It?

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:00:56 +0000

A psychologist presents information on the physiological functioning of the brain and how different chemicals may contribute to the propensity for an affair.

Interesting, but don’t get carried away with this theory. What comes first, the chicken or the egg?

Check out Dr. Roher’s blog post at http://droherpsychotherapy.com/blog/marital-infidelity-part-5/

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Divorce Info: Can I Sue the OP?

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 14:55:35 +0000

Today’s guest blog is pretty interesting and not necessarily something we think about often. We will hear from Lee Borden, a man who is committed to helping people survive divorce, at www.divorceinfo.com. He talks in his blog about the possibility of actually filing a lawsuit against the OP (other person) who ruined your marriage. If going after the OP is something you have ever considered, you might want to check out this blog.

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Infidelity and the Stupid Things People Say and Do

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 12:00:19 +0000

Here is another guest blog post from a couple who experienced the pain and agony of an emotional affair first hand. Doug and Linda, husband and wife, survived Doug’s affair with a co-worker after 25 years of marriage. It has been a long road for Doug and Linda, and they continue to mend their relationship and work on their marriage daily. They have real-life, hard-hitting advice to give based on their own personal experience.

Today’s blog is somewhat humorous in nature (depending on how you look at it). See Doug’s infidelity from Linda’s perspective as she looks back on his statements and actions in the midst of his emotional affair.

Check out Linda’s post at www.emotionalaffair.org

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Speak Your Mind Calmly

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 23:41:11 +0000

Emotional infidelity can be one of the most devastating types of affairs...and todays guest bloggers, Doug and Linda, know this all too well. You will hear directly from a couple who survived infidelity and moved on to create a blog about their emotional affair journey. This blog post is about speaking your mind calmly, not only when dealing with infidelity, but in all issues regarding your relationship. Burying anger and avoiding confrontation is something they believe led to a lack of communication in their marriage. Holding their emotions and anger inside resulted in a build up of resentment which, in turn, led to serious problems in their marriage.

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Falling In Love With Two People

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 21:09:54 +0000

The guest blogger today is discussing the importance of falling in love…not falling in love with another person, but yourself. Do you remember how wonderful it was when you first fell in love with your spouse/partner? Do you remember how confident and whole you felt in their presence? Being around them actually made you feel better, emotionally and even physically. A healthy love for yourself can be the deepest, most meaningful kind of love you’ll find. When you have this, everything else seems to fall into place, including your relationships with others. Check out the post by David Wygant on the importance of Falling in Love with Two People.

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Couple Shares Outcome of Emotional Affair

Guest Blogger — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 22:30:23 +0000

The guest blogger today is a couple who have survived and redesigned their marriage after the husband’s emotional affair.

They write to tell their story and help others who might be experiencing an emotional affair as well.

Here’s what the husband writes:

Linda often tells me she doesn’t understand how I could have let myself get involved in an emotional affair with another woman. I can honestly say there wasn’t any singular reason or that I was looking for some kind of mid-life thrill. It was something that just happened. Unusual circumstances at work brought Tanya and I much closer than married co-workers should become. Combine that with dissatisfaction in her marriage and the marital “rut” that Linda and I were in, and there was a recipe for this type of marital affair to occur.

We found in each other certain feelings and personality traits that were missing in our marital relationships, and the result was a kind of euphoria that wasn’t existing at home. Only through Linda’s diligent efforts to save our marriage and my snapping back into reality did I realize just how stupid I had been. If I would have just been smart enough to confide in Linda when I initially felt like we were having marriage problems, I’m certain none of this would have happened.

The foundation of our love and our relationship was still sound: our kids, our home, our history together and all the things we have in common. But somehow we let the trials and tribulations of everyday life stop us from continuing to build upon this solid foundation which resulted in my devastating emotional infidelity.

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Internet Infidelity Online

Guest Blogger — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 14:38:19 +0000

Internet infidelity is rampant. Many of my coaching clients must deal with this form of infidelity… and it’s a tough one.

One of my online colleagues at www.askmaple.com specializes in this area. She has graciously offered to be a guest blogger.

Here is what she has to say:

There are many factors to determine exactly if you are facing internet infidelity. Ask yourself these questions:

Are you are a committed relationship even though you are not legally married and your partner is chatting on the net to the opposite sex?

Are you married and your spouse is on the net?

Have they purchased a cam for chats on the internet?

Does your spouse communicate with some one of the opposite sex? They may just say they are helping some one with a problem. Yes thats a big problem!

Is your spouse or committed partner talking to old flames or even former schoolmates?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions I want you to seriously know your relationship is at risk. Your spouse or partner will lie, lie and deny any of the contributing factors. They will try to make you believe they are just friends or its your imagination. I’ve seen relationships not address the situation and fall apart given time. Do you know why? You let the situation slide and it becomes more emotional for your partner to break free of the internet infidelity connection.

I urge you to address these issues immediately.

In over a decade working with people in situations like yours I know exactly what you need to know to break through the confusion and paranoia. In the end, a harmless cyber-fling spells double trouble as a spouse may leave a once long term and stable marriage because of someone they just met over the internet. The partner in a new committed relationship may even be posting their photos or profiles on dating or swinging sites. They may tell you its all in the past but is it?

Askmaple.com has much information about infidelity resources. My ebook gives practical, indepth and proven methods used effectively for thousands of victims such as yourself. To deal with the problem of internet infidelity you need to have a total comprehension about the impacts of what is occurring with your partner or spouse. Don’t put this off another indecisive confusing day – be absolutely certain. Don’t be a victim — be a survivor.

For more info, visit my web site today: http://www.askmaple.com

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The Stress Of Divorce

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 17:41:45 +0000

Facing the infidelity in a marriage generates am inordinate amount of stress and tension. Add to that the movement toward separation and divorce and you have a window of a months in which one's ability to manage and deal with that tension is challenged. In this article Tracy talks about the importance of managing that stress and tension. She gives 6 important reminders and keys to keep yourself sane and headed to where you really want to go.

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Protecting Your Credit During Divorce

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 17:32:44 +0000

This is another post in the series on how to move effectively through the divorce process once it is apparent the marriage is ended as a result of the infidelity or extramarital affair. In this article Tracy looks at the issue of your credit standing. She also examines the different types of financial accounts that may be shared or controlled by the spouse, and what you must do to protect yourself and manage those accounts. Tracy also discusses the need to establish a personal credit history.

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Divorce Considerations For Women

Dr. Bob Huizenga — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 17:24:59 +0000

This article is specifically written for women (who typically experience a 30% reduction in their standard of living after divorce) whom are almost certainly headed for divorce. Tracy gives an overview of what you must consider in moving through he divorce process. This article is helpful for those who have struggled with the infidelity, moved through the ambivalence and it's obvious the marriage will not work. Tracy gives a check list of steps and actions to take when considering financial and legal strategies, record keeping, support issues, insurance, retirement and social security, property and assets, taxes and liens and documents and records.

Click the title to read the article.

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