Comments on: Healing Marriage After the Affair http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/04/22/healing-marriage-after-the-affair/ to Survive and Cope with Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:06:05 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Miquel Rogers http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/04/22/healing-marriage-after-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-34330 Miquel Rogers Sat, 30 May 2009 00:04:33 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=509#comment-34330 Jorja, Certainly 2 years not having made a decison is harmful, or have you decided to cohabitat as friends. Jorja,

Certainly 2 years not having made a decison is harmful, or have you decided to cohabitat as friends.

]]> By: Jorja http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/04/22/healing-marriage-after-the-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-32881 Jorja Fri, 24 Apr 2009 09:10:38 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=509#comment-32881 We sometimes questioned our relationship-but only ever decided it was a lack of friends around and support that was missing. So I guess he found that missing piece. A new friend! It started out with him caring for her-but not caring how much it hurt me. He wanted to be her friend but did not see that-that left me without him as my friend. And then it moved to a relationship between them. Five months since I found out-he ended the affair immediately but saw her/spoke to her a couple(?)more times. It took me 10wks to get over the shock of finding out-10wks to accept it has happened -but where to go now? I choose to forgive him-I choose to forgive myself- but how to move forward and rebuild? He thinks we have talked about everything over and over - there is nothing new to say. We sometimes questioned our relationship-but only ever decided it was a lack of friends around and support that was missing. So I guess he found that missing piece. A new friend! It started out with him caring for her-but not caring how much it hurt me. He wanted to be her friend but did not see that-that left me without him as my friend. And then it moved to a relationship between them. Five months since I found out-he ended the affair immediately but saw her/spoke to her a couple(?)more times. It took me 10wks to get over the shock of finding out-10wks to accept it has happened -but where to go now? I choose to forgive him-I choose to forgive myself- but how to move forward and rebuild? He thinks we have talked about everything over and over – there is nothing new to say.

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