Comments on: Marital Infidelity: The Other Person Doesn’t Care About You http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/04/21/marital-infidelity-the-other-person-doesnt-care-about-you/ to Survive and Cope with Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:06:05 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: sermin http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/04/21/marital-infidelity-the-other-person-doesnt-care-about-you/comment-page-1/#comment-48914 sermin Fri, 09 Apr 2010 04:08:21 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=507#comment-48914 I don't understand this, he is cheating on you, your friend cheating on you, no matter how good father he is he still can see kids by being at least on a little better more honest way by stepping out off your home, environment. Men would use chances for his own advantages if women copes with their corruption. Being a real one into a unity is not that hard unfortunately it turned out women acts corrupted even if she is a friend only having sex in her life and men mostly open for cheating because wives seem anyway find a way to get used to being cheated. What a world and unity that you children will grown into that mess so will become like normal for them what they will be able to conduct the same quality what they observed. It is totally against to love in your heart that you know you are cheated by your husband rest is story and maybe your fear but enough keep going on that way what seems no good for in it, also way corrupted. I have so disturbed seeing massive corruption in culture and seems not many one bothers anymore, almost like everyone find their own way. Great than pls. don't make baby into this mess, this is for general, I married and ruined by a man who is severely consumer in any case, ruined all values I had to (way domineering by being moody and cranky) sacrifices extreme, payed great just forced me into such mess and I have no way to trust or see a man in him but selfishly focused and tyranny. He hastily found many women one was even married and has daughter, her husband got mad this is why my silly one lost his job too, who has to pay child support monthly 600$ for his 2 sons to his ex, so not only my life, ruined his sons support too. Impulsive selfish destructive power only bring calamities one to another. This is why one has to stay and act firm and correct, otherwise human being turned out to like self indulgent beast who doesn't care to hurt others for his/her own joy. This is totally corruption nothing all and wish women not be a part of such but they wildly hungry for lust to run into.. I don’t understand this, he is cheating on you, your friend cheating on you, no matter how good father he is he still can see kids by being at least on a little better more honest way by stepping out off your home, environment. Men would use chances for his own advantages if women copes with their corruption. Being a real one into a unity is not that hard unfortunately it turned out women acts corrupted even if she is a friend only having sex in her life and men mostly open for cheating because wives seem anyway find a way to get used to being cheated. What a world and unity that you children will grown into that mess so will become like normal for them what they will be able to conduct the same quality what they observed. It is totally against to love in your heart that you know you are cheated by your husband rest is story and maybe your fear but enough keep going on that way what seems no good for in it, also way corrupted. I have so disturbed seeing massive corruption in culture and seems not many one bothers anymore, almost like everyone find their own way. Great than pls. don’t make baby into this mess, this is for general, I married and ruined by a man who is severely consumer in any case, ruined all values I had to (way domineering by being moody and cranky) sacrifices extreme, payed great just forced me into such mess and I have no way to trust or see a man in him but selfishly focused and tyranny. He hastily found many women one was even married and has daughter, her husband got mad this is why my silly one lost his job too, who has to pay child support monthly 600$ for his 2 sons to his ex, so not only my life, ruined his sons support too. Impulsive selfish destructive power only bring calamities one to another. This is why one has to stay and act firm and correct, otherwise human being turned out to like self indulgent beast who doesn’t care to hurt others for his/her own joy. This is totally corruption nothing all and wish women not be a part of such but they wildly hungry for lust to run into..

]]> By: guest http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/04/21/marital-infidelity-the-other-person-doesnt-care-about-you/comment-page-1/#comment-32766 guest Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:53:26 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=507#comment-32766 She was definat and told me this sort of affiars just happen and sometimes go on for five to ten years. Since my husband was not leaving me, why I should bother and then she left. Second time I tried to talk to her she told me she would call police if I bothered her. After two weeks of that incident she send me a half a cake!! she bought a big one and since she ddn't like to waste the food it she decided to share it with his affair partner's wife!! I'm still mad at her attitude... She even offered to babysit my kid a few times in past in case my husband and me wanted some time alone. All this while the affair was already in full swing and she knew that I knew all about it.... I'm still in love with my husband. He is a good father and used to be caring before she entered our life. We had to live spearately for more than two years because he was studying abroad and then because of my visa problems.... She got the benefit of proximity since she was studying in the same university. Even when I joined my husband for some months last year she would call him up for some favour as shopping or something. Then she started to call him at night or chat with him on net in the night and tell her sob stories. My husband would spent half an hour or more consoling her online and often ended up going to her place telling me that she was very depressed and he was going just to give her support because she was all alone.... I objected off course when the frequency started to increase and she started to latch onto him more and more ... Then I discovered a snap of them in a kiss. He said it was just ajoke and that nothing was going on and I shouldn't be worried. Within two months of saying that their relationship turned sexual- typically in the frustration that my visa was rejected!! When I was finally able to join my husband I was simply told that they know it would not last forever ( it started some two years back and last year their emotional tie turned sexual too) and so I should rather adjust and wait.... My husband told me that when he told her that he might have to stop because of me she just told us to move back to our home conutry if he wanted to stop... I feel so stupid for not handling the situatioon in the start - probably the very first time I noticed something was going on... But my husband was going though some health prblems and I had just joined him after a gap I didn't want to rush... I know I 'm an idiot but I just can't dump him... too much is at stake. If I separate I want to go back to my home town... that mean another country that makes child custody problems. My husband tells me I' m being selfish for trying to take my kid with me and depriving him from his father. And that I'm being a child wanting to move back near my parents and relatives in case of separation. He doesn't understand that I came to this country solely because of him. I am not that charmed by the place. The only thing I have here are memories of betrayal. I landed in the country and within a month my life turned into a night mare which just kept going bad to worse... I am bing told that I will get better paid job here and better life style- I will not get any mental peace and my kid will see only broken family add to a foreign atmosphere- but that doesn't seem important to him. He says there are so many broken families here and they get along. that he will keep visiting us daily and provide assistant to us when needed that way he will fullfill his fatherly responsibilites. He says he wants to have a say in his kids life. And that I won't be able to raise him on my own... In the mean while I lost contorle ove my emotions recently and we are having horrible fights. Now he say I have no manner and sence of feminity and that's why I should give him a break and let him do what he wants besides his marriage. I am a mess... She was definat and told me this sort of affiars just happen and sometimes go on for five to ten years. Since my husband was not leaving me, why I should bother and then she left. Second time I tried to talk to her she told me she would call police if I bothered her. After two weeks of that incident she send me a half a cake!! she bought a big one and since she ddn’t like to waste the food it she decided to share it with his affair partner’s wife!!

I’m still mad at her attitude… She even offered to babysit my kid a few times in past in case my husband and me wanted some time alone. All this while the affair was already in full swing and she knew that I knew all about it….

I’m still in love with my husband. He is a good father and used to be caring before she entered our life. We had to live spearately for more than two years because he was studying abroad and then because of my visa problems…. She got the benefit of proximity since she was studying in the same university.

Even when I joined my husband for some months last year she would call him up for some favour as shopping or something. Then she started to call him at night or chat with him on net in the night and tell her sob stories. My husband would spent half an hour or more consoling her online and often ended up going to her place telling me that she was very depressed and he was going just to give her support because she was all alone….

I objected off course when the frequency started to increase and she started to latch onto him more and more … Then I discovered a snap of them in a kiss. He said it was just ajoke and that nothing was going on and I shouldn’t be worried. Within two months of saying that their relationship turned sexual- typically in the frustration that my visa was rejected!!

When I was finally able to join my husband I was simply told that they know it would not last forever ( it started some two years back and last year their emotional tie turned sexual too) and so I should rather adjust and wait….

My husband told me that when he told her that he might have to stop because of me she just told us to move back to our home conutry if he wanted to stop…

I feel so stupid for not handling the situatioon in the start – probably the very first time I noticed something was going on…

But my husband was going though some health prblems and I had just joined him after a gap I didn’t want to rush… I know I ‘m an idiot but I just can’t dump him… too much is at stake. If I separate I want to go back to my home town… that mean another country that makes child custody problems.

My husband tells me I’ m being selfish for trying to take my kid with me and depriving him from his father. And that I’m being a child wanting to move back near my parents and relatives in case of separation. He doesn’t understand that I came to this country solely because of him. I am not that charmed by the place. The only thing I have here are memories of betrayal. I landed in the country and within a month my life turned into a night mare which just kept going bad to worse…

I am bing told that I will get better paid job here and better life style- I will not get any mental peace and my kid will see only broken family add to a foreign atmosphere- but that doesn’t seem important to him.

He says there are so many broken families here and they get along. that he will keep visiting us daily and provide assistant to us when needed that way he will fullfill his fatherly responsibilites. He says he wants to have a say in his kids life. And that I won’t be able to raise him on my own…

In the mean while I lost contorle ove my emotions recently and we are having horrible fights. Now he say I have no manner and sence of feminity and that’s why I should give him a break and let him do what he wants besides his marriage.

I am a mess…

]]> By: guest http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/04/21/marital-infidelity-the-other-person-doesnt-care-about-you/comment-page-1/#comment-32764 guest Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:25:46 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=507#comment-32764 She was definat and told me this sort of affiars just happen and sometimes go on for five to ten years. Since my husband is not leaving me, why I should bother and then she left. Second time I tried to talk to her she told me she will call police if I bothered her. After two weeks she send me a half a cake!! she bought a big one and since she ddn't like to waste the food it she decided to share it with his affair partner's wife!! I'm still mad at her attitude... She even offered to babysit my kid a few times in past if my husband and me want some time alone. All this while the affair was already in full swing and she knew that I knew all about it.... I'm still in love with my husband. He is a good father and used to be caring before she entered our life. We had to live spearately for more than two years because he was studying abroad and then because of visa problems.... She got the benefit of proximity since she was studying in the same university. Even when I joined my husband for some months last year she would call him up for some favour as shopping or something. Then she started to call him at night or chat with him on net in the night and tell her sob stories. My husband would spent half an hour or more consioling her online and often ended up going to her place telling me that she was very depressed and he was going just to give her support because she was all alone.... I objected off course when the frequency started to increase and she started to latch onto him more and more ... Both of them simply told me that they know it would not last forever ( it started some two years back and last year their emotional tie turned sexual too) and so I should rather adjust and wait.... My husband told me that when he told her that he might have to stop because of me she just told us to move back to our home conutry if he wanted to stop... I feel so stupid for not handling the situatioon in the start - probably the very first time I noticed something was going on... But my husband was going though some health prblems and I had just joined him after a gap I didn't want to rush... I know I 'm an idiot but I just can't dump him... too much is at stake. If I separate I want to go back to my home town... that mean another country that makes child custody problems. My husband tells me I' m being selfish for trying to take my kid with me and depriving him from his father. And that I'm being a child wanting to move back near my parents and relatives in case of separation. He doesn't understand that I came to this country solely because of him. I am not that charmed by the place. The only thing I have here are memories of betrayal. I landed in the country and within a month my life turned into a night mare which just kept going bad to worse... I am bing told that I will get better paid job here and better life style- I will not get any mental peace and my kid will see only broken family add to a foreign atmosphere- but that doesn't seem important to him. He says there are so many broken families here and they get along. that he will keep visiting us daily and provide assistant to us when needed that way he will fullfill his fatherly responsibilites. He says he wants to have a say in his kids life. And that I won't be able to raise him on my own... In the mean while I lost contorle ove my emotions recently and we are having horrible fights. Now he say I have no manner and sence of feminity and that's why I should give him a break and let him do what he wants besides his marriage. I am a mess... She was definat and told me this sort of affiars just happen and sometimes go on for five to ten years. Since my husband is not leaving me, why I should bother and then she left. Second time I tried to talk to her she told me she will call police if I bothered her. After two weeks she send me a half a cake!! she bought a big one and since she ddn’t like to waste the food it she decided to share it with his affair partner’s wife!! I’m still mad at her attitude… She even offered to babysit my kid a few times in past if my husband and me want some time alone. All this while the affair was already in full swing and she knew that I knew all about it….

I’m still in love with my husband. He is a good father and used to be caring before she entered our life. We had to live spearately for more than two years because he was studying abroad and then because of visa problems…. She got the benefit of proximity since she was studying in the same university.

Even when I joined my husband for some months last year she would call him up for some favour as shopping or something. Then she started to call him at night or chat with him on net in the night and tell her sob stories. My husband would spent half an hour or more consioling her online and often ended up going to her place telling me that she was very depressed and he was going just to give her support because she was all alone….

I objected off course when the frequency started to increase and she started to latch onto him more and more …

Both of them simply told me that they know it would not last forever ( it started some two years back and last year their emotional tie turned sexual too) and so I should rather adjust and wait….

My husband told me that when he told her that he might have to stop because of me she just told us to move back to our home conutry if he wanted to stop…

I feel so stupid for not handling the situatioon in the start – probably the very first time I noticed something was going on…

But my husband was going though some health prblems and I had just joined him after a gap I didn’t want to rush… I know I ‘m an idiot but I just can’t dump him… too much is at stake. If I separate I want to go back to my home town… that mean another country that makes child custody problems.

My husband tells me I’ m being selfish for trying to take my kid with me and depriving him from his father. And that I’m being a child wanting to move back near my parents and relatives in case of separation. He doesn’t understand that I came to this country solely because of him. I am not that charmed by the place. The only thing I have here are memories of betrayal. I landed in the country and within a month my life turned into a night mare which just kept going bad to worse…

I am bing told that I will get better paid job here and better life style- I will not get any mental peace and my kid will see only broken family add to a foreign atmosphere- but that doesn’t seem important to him.

He says there are so many broken families here and they get along. that he will keep visiting us daily and provide assistant to us when needed that way he will fullfill his fatherly responsibilites. He says he wants to have a say in his kids life. And that I won’t be able to raise him on my own…

In the mean while I lost contorle ove my emotions recently and we are having horrible fights. Now he say I have no manner and sence of feminity and that’s why I should give him a break and let him do what he wants besides his marriage.

I am a mess…

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