This real-time story is laced with a powerful determination. The cheated upon husband “sets up” the other man and confronts his own wife with the evidence. He also shares the evidence with the op’s wife.

Please note the almost desperation and single minded focus of this wounded man.

Did he stop the affair? Sounds like it.

What happened to his marriage? We don’t know. He was on a mission and accomplished his mission,but we are left wondering about the aftermath.

1. What was your purpose for confronting the OP and what did you say/do?

Purpose was to discover and stop the affair with strong evidence. What i did was create a false sense of security for him, which he fell for in a matter of minutes. I then requested he contact me (as in me pretending to be my wife) which he did. From there, many truths were learned. Later that day, I took her cellphone with me for a business meeting. This in itself caused panic whereby she attempted to contact him for several hours. There is alot more to it, however this is pretty much the core of it.

2. What happened? What was the outcome?

After discovering they were found out, there was no inclination or intention to come forward with the truth. After 24 hours, I had collated my evidence and approached her with it. It was here that a confession (per se) was put forward. These were all lies regardless as the evidence spoke for itself. From there an ultimatum was given to him to tell his wife what he had done. He refused to do so even though he continued to feign that he did. He had abandoned my wife altogether and pretended she did not exist. He wouldn’t return my/her calls and responded to emails with one liners full of guilt. After tracking his wife down, she was advised by me of his activities with my wife. His own wife left him after that.

3. If you were to do it again, would you do it differently? What did you learn?

I learned that emotions can drive one to do incredible things. I would have allowed the game to be played out for a little longer, as this would have given me more of an insight into how/what my wife had really thought of our marriage. This was a culmination of many different “types” of affairs, however for him, he only saw it as harmless fun. In fact these were the words he told his wife.

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