With the separation physically and emotionally almost complete (resolution of the relationship) the wounded spouse calls the OP out of concern – mostly.

It’s time to move one. Calling the OP was probably one of the final pieces in that moving on process.

1. What was your purpose for confronting the OP and what did you say/do?

Tired of bill collectors calling and figured his lack of money was due to still giving her money. Now separated so figured I had nothing to loose and she should know the truth about what she was getting into. Also to tell her I tested positive for an STD. She should know and although my ex knew about it and said he had told her, he didn’t after all…she doesn’t deserve to have anything, but it came from her in the first place, most likely.

2. What happened? What was the outcome?

She and I had a good conversation and she did keep it confidential. I think she would rather have the truth than find out later on. Wish his ex’s wife had filled me in. She agreed. Supporting someone is not fun when there is nothing in return but more cheating.

3. If you were to do it again, would you do it differently? What did you learn?

Wouldn’t change a thing.

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