http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/21/healing-from-the-extramarital-affair/ to Survive and Cope with Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:06:05 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/21/healing-from-the-extramarital-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-30153 frustrated Wed, 25 Feb 2009 01:26:07 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=394#comment-30153 We are in the calm phase of his affair, have a loving relationship and are now trying to work out regaining true, genuine intimacy. Except for one major problem, I am still stuck in his story. It changed several times as he told me what happened and still don't believe that I know the whole story. I have hope that we can regain the intimacy we once had, but not if I can't completely trust him. I'm not sure if I have to know it all to move on. But most of all, I have hope...a tiny spark of hope. Or all of this energy trying to fix it would be wasted. TALK to people. I didn't. It made things SO much harder. Talking and being validated helps the move forward. We are in the calm phase of his affair, have a loving relationship and are now trying to work out regaining true, genuine intimacy. Except for one major problem, I am still stuck in his story. It changed several times as he told me what happened and still don’t believe that I know the whole story. I have hope that we can regain the intimacy we once had, but not if I can’t completely trust him. I’m not sure if I have to know it all to move on. But most of all, I have hope…a tiny spark of hope. Or all of this energy trying to fix it would be wasted. TALK to people. I didn’t. It made things SO much harder. Talking and being validated helps the move forward.

]]> http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/21/healing-from-the-extramarital-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-30097 debbie Mon, 23 Feb 2009 21:12:05 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=394#comment-30097 we are 8 months passed when I found out. Am I better today than that day? YES! I still get that feeling in my stomach and I still worry but we are in such a better place. WHenever I feel the need to have a question answered, I ask it. He's been really good about doing that. Will I ever trust 100%??? Probably not but that doesn't mean I can't love him 100%...this time with eyes open for sure. we are 8 months passed when I found out. Am I better today than that day? YES! I still get that feeling in my stomach and I still worry but we are in such a better place. WHenever I feel the need to have a question answered, I ask it. He’s been really good about doing that. Will I ever trust 100%??? Probably not but that doesn’t mean I can’t love him 100%…this time with eyes open for sure.

]]> http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/21/healing-from-the-extramarital-affair/comment-page-1/#comment-30000 krystlelyte Sat, 21 Feb 2009 22:25:28 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=394#comment-30000 Do you ever heal from an extra marital affair..every other day i have a hole in my stomach..not knowing if he is still seeing other woman..but i have to focus on my well-being because i never know if he will leave me for her..so i want to be able to stand on my two feet because when i found out about affair(s) i was devastated i wanted to commit suicide..but i now know that it had to do with his personal neediness and the narcissistic need for intense flattery. an affair is not the answer... Do you ever heal from an extra marital affair..every other day i have a hole in my stomach..not knowing if he is still seeing other woman..but i have to focus on my well-being because i never know if he will leave me for her..so i want to be able to stand on my two feet because when i found out about affair(s) i was devastated i wanted to commit suicide..but i now know that it had to do with his personal neediness and the narcissistic need for intense flattery. an affair is not the answer…

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