Comments on: Confronting the Other Woman: Live and Learn http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/19/confronting-the-other-woman-live-and-learn/ to Survive and Cope with Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs Thu, 02 Feb 2012 21:06:05 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Cristiane Assuncao Skag http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/19/confronting-the-other-woman-live-and-learn/comment-page-1/#comment-78440 Cristiane Assuncao Skag Thu, 22 Sep 2011 10:49:31 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=390#comment-78440 Trust me, you are better off letting her know that there are consequences for chasing something that isnt hers. IF he is not really yours, just because you are used to a pair of socks you love, doesnt mean there aren't better ones out there. There are lots of hookers and skags out there that like to chase things to improve their ego, and disguise it under other pretenses. You are better off letting him go to the dirty skag to learn the lesson himself; if he begs and pleads, make harsh conditions, but never compromise your pride, it just isnt worth it. If you have a dog, give him to his bitch. Trust me, you are better off letting her know that there are consequences for chasing something that isnt hers. IF he is not really yours, just because you are used to a pair of socks you love, doesnt mean there aren’t better ones out there. There are lots of hookers and skags out there that like to chase things to improve their ego, and disguise it under other pretenses. You are better off letting him go to the dirty skag to learn the lesson himself; if he begs and pleads, make harsh conditions, but never compromise your pride, it just isnt worth it. If you have a dog, give him to his bitch.

]]> By: Surreal http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/19/confronting-the-other-woman-live-and-learn/comment-page-1/#comment-43777 Surreal Sat, 26 Dec 2009 16:07:43 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=390#comment-43777 It can get better if he puts forth effort to gain your trust and you put effort to forgive and not let the hussie gain access to your head & heart. I know easier said then done. I've gone through a similar situation. I outed her on a public internet forum. She called my home and said she was picking up my son, I told her if she dared the police would be waiting for her. I found out (through an investigator) that she had similar stalking issues (sleeping with married men) and was an alchoholic. Through it all, my husband pleaded for me to stay with him. To forgive him, everyday is a struggle but I know all the years we have spent together (18), he loves me. What is more important, this incident changed me, I am more confident in my own abilities. If he chooses another woman again, I know I can walk. God doesn't close a door without opening a window. Take heart. It can get better if he puts forth effort to gain your trust and you put effort to forgive and not let the hussie gain access to your head & heart. I know easier said then done. I’ve gone through a similar situation. I outed her on a public internet forum. She called my home and said she was picking up my son, I told her if she dared the police would be waiting for her. I found out (through an investigator) that she had similar stalking issues (sleeping with married men) and was an alchoholic.

Through it all, my husband pleaded for me to stay with him. To forgive him, everyday is a struggle but I know all the years we have spent together (18), he loves me. What is more important, this incident changed me, I am more confident in my own abilities. If he chooses another woman again, I know I can walk. God doesn’t close a door without opening a window. Take heart.

]]> By: cheryl riley http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2009/02/19/confronting-the-other-woman-live-and-learn/comment-page-1/#comment-30859 cheryl riley Fri, 13 Mar 2009 15:03:40 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=390#comment-30859 I just went through a horrific time last April/08 when I finally got solid evidence of my husband's infidelity. His cell phone kept beeping 'message waiting', so I picked it up thinking it was one of our three daughters needing to get picked up from somewhere, his cell phone was locked...unusual I thought, but then I remembered him telling me that he used my birthdate as his pin numbers??!! I punched in my birthdate and lo and behold one sex message after another came up....I went into shock, numbness. I ran upstairs sobbing and crying, my eldest daughter ran after me and I threw the cell phone at her all the while screaming "I knew it, I knew it all along!!!" I had tried several times over the year to get him to admit he was having an affair, he would always say it was due to his heart surgery why he couldn't make love anymore?? Like the trusting spouse I was I believed him. My daughter then called this OP and when she answered she handed the phone to me and said "deal with it mother", so I spoke to the OP calmly even though I was raging inside, I asked her for how long she's been having sex with my husband", of course she pleaded "he's my friend!!", women always have to make friends first and ensure trust before they will have sex. They had met in August 2006, began having sex January 2007 4X a week. she was a single parent of 3 teens, he had lost his job, was recoving from heart surgery and became depressed, he was ripe for an affair...I was working my butt off trying to keep his stress level down due his heart problems. Paying all the bills, dealing with all the household issues and teen girls issues etc.etc. This left him with a great deal of time on his hands, hence he began meeting this stay-at-home parent for coffee weekly, it progressed to sex every afternoon and continued until I found out about it. I showed him the door the same day I spoke to her, she was adamant that he didn't love me, that he loved her and in her words "i"m in love with him, he's in love with me and your in the way", when I confronted him about speaking with her, he literally fell on his knees in shock...??? He packed his bags and she came and got him. the story then gets kinda twisted, because he began stalking me, one of our three girls would not let him walk away from us, she just kept visiting him at his girlfriends house and reporting on how our household was running...it irked me and her and I had real issues over this. To make a long story short, after 6 months of separaration, we decided to try and repair our 24 year old marraige, she continues to attempt to get him to start up with her again...I live in fear, suspicion and mistrust.....=-( I just went through a horrific time last April/08 when I finally got solid evidence of my husband’s infidelity. His cell phone kept beeping ‘message waiting’, so I picked it up thinking it was one of our three daughters needing to get picked up from somewhere, his cell phone was locked…unusual I thought, but then I remembered him telling me that he used my birthdate as his pin numbers??!! I punched in my birthdate and lo and behold one sex message after another came up….I went into shock, numbness. I ran upstairs sobbing and crying, my eldest daughter ran after me and I threw the cell phone at her all the while screaming “I knew it, I knew it all along!!!” I had tried several times over the year to get him to admit he was having an affair, he would always say it was due to his heart surgery why he couldn’t make love anymore?? Like the trusting spouse I was I believed him. My daughter then called this OP and when she answered she handed the phone to me and said “deal with it mother”, so I spoke to the OP calmly even though I was raging inside, I asked her for how long she’s been having sex with my husband”, of course she pleaded “he’s my friend!!”, women always have to make friends first and ensure trust before they will have sex. They had met in August 2006, began having sex January 2007 4X a week. she was a single parent of 3 teens, he had lost his job, was recoving from heart surgery and became depressed, he was ripe for an affair…I was working my butt off trying to keep his stress level down due his heart problems. Paying all the bills, dealing with all the household issues and teen girls issues etc.etc. This left him with a great deal of time on his hands, hence he began meeting this stay-at-home parent for coffee weekly, it progressed to sex every afternoon and continued until I found out about it. I showed him the door the same day I spoke to her, she was adamant that he didn’t love me, that he loved her and in her words “i”m in love with him, he’s in love with me and your in the way”, when I confronted him about speaking with her, he literally fell on his knees in shock…??? He packed his bags and she came and got him. the story then gets kinda twisted, because he began stalking me, one of our three girls would not let him walk away from us, she just kept visiting him at his girlfriends house and reporting on how our household was running…it irked me and her and I had real issues over this. To make a long story short, after 6 months of separaration, we decided to try and repair our 24 year old marraige, she continues to attempt to get him to start up with her again…I live in fear, suspicion and mistrust…..=-(

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