The “I Don’t want to Say No” is one type of infidelity that underscores the trait of narcissism.

The case study below illustrates what it’s like to cope with infidelity of this nature.

1. What are the 5 top things you presently are tolerating or putting up with as you face infidelity?

We have been reconciled for 2 yrs. but at the time I put up with Flip-flopping! With me, he would be determined to fix the mess he made, but as soon as he was back with her, he couldn’t leave her. 2. Tears, he cried all the time, felt very sorry for himself. 3. Nastiness, tell me how great she was, most sensuous woman he had ever met; such a great cook; a great mom; wonderful, nice woman she was; she had been married and divorced 3X’s, had several long term common law situations. 4. Drinking on his medication 5. Cake eating big time! Never let me out of his clutches, begging me to be patient, let him get this out of his system My husband hates confrontation!

Coach’s Comments:

1. I suspect an “I Don’t Want to Say No” type of affair. The flip-flopping seems like a game, not a true sign of confusion or ambivalence. He “knows” what he wants and he’s going to get it (i.e. both a mistress – who mirrors back to him how truly great he is – and a stable home base envirnment from which to stray.) His comments to his wife about the OP also indicates narcissism.

2. Words won’t work with the “I Don’t Want to Say No.” One needs to act, to set up and follow through on consequences. And, when action is indicated, he will turn on the tears and apologies. Don’t fall for that trick.

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