Comments on: Surviving Marital Infidelity: Shifts you Make http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2008/09/02/surviving-marital-infidelity-shifts-you-make/ to Survive and Cope with Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs Sun, 15 Aug 2010 12:50:10 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: ulitmate betrayal http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2008/09/02/surviving-marital-infidelity-shifts-you-make/comment-page-1/#comment-23915 ulitmate betrayal Tue, 02 Sep 2008 16:10:19 +0000 http://www.infidelity-help.com/?p=122#comment-23915 Thank you so much for your E-course. It has helped me to see so many killer mistakes that I was making. I realized that the affair is all about him and his lack of self esteem. I realized that he is missing bits and pieces of HIS life and he is trying to fill the void that HE has created all by himself. He sought to make himself feel better about himself. The affair has very little to do with me and everything to do with him and his over inflated ego. The most important skill that I have learned is to Charge Neutral. I have blown his mind with that one! He doesn't know quite what to think of me. I actually told him that I didn't care if he left when he threatened to. A month later, he is still at home. I think the affair has ended but he is very angry and hostile towards me. He is still very much in denial too. He claims that he has done nothing wrong even when confronted with proof. I realized through the E-course that I can't work on my marriage if he is not willing to. I am now armed with strategies that are helping me to deal with his attitude towards me and our daughter. The only thing that I haven't been able to over come is my fear of the future and "Not Knowing" what exactly is going on with him and the OW. He isn't willing to discuss it and I'm afraid of confronting him again because of the rage that comes out when I even mention our problems. Thank you so much for your E-course. It has helped me to see so many killer mistakes that I was making. I realized that the affair is all about him and his lack of self esteem. I realized that he is missing bits and pieces of HIS life and he is trying to fill the void that HE has created all by himself. He sought to make himself feel better about himself. The affair has very little to do with me and everything to do with him and his over inflated ego.

The most important skill that I have learned is to Charge Neutral. I have blown his mind with that one! He doesn’t know quite what to think of me. I actually told him that I didn’t care if he left when he threatened to. A month later, he is still at home. I think the affair has ended but he is very angry and hostile towards me. He is still very much in denial too. He claims that he has done nothing wrong even when confronted with proof.

I realized through the E-course that I can’t work on my marriage if he is not willing to. I am now armed with strategies that are helping me to deal with his attitude towards me and our daughter. The only thing that I haven’t been able to over come is my fear of the future and “Not Knowing” what exactly is going on with him and the OW. He isn’t willing to discuss it and I’m afraid of confronting him again because of the rage that comes out when I even mention our problems.

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