http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2008/03/23/infidelity-3-key-points-in-the-emotional-affair/ to Survive and Cope with Infidelity and Extramarital Affairs Tue, 06 Jan 2009 10:32:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2008/03/23/infidelity-3-key-points-in-the-emotional-affair/#comment-26973 Jackie Mon, 17 Nov 2008 18:58:29 +0000 http://infidelity-help.com/blog/2008/03/23/infidelity-3-key-points-in-the-emotional-affair/#comment-26973 My husband of 27 years confessed to a brief affair (2 months) about six weeks ago, and ended the affair. He is deeply remorseful, can't understand why he did it (co-worker, having trouble with an abusive spouse), and has been completely open and honeset about everything I ask and want to know. We talk every day. I didn't know if I could every get past the pain or be able to trust him again. We have had such a great marriage for all these years (which he agrees is true), and we had always sworn never to forget that the foundation of the family is the husband and wife......and yet, in retrospect, we did indeed let "life" get in the way. Work, children, busy schedules, being tired, etc. Somehow we allowed our "alone time" to be eroded away without even noticing. And even though my husband accepts all blame (which he should), I was very surprised through the course of our frank discussions to find how much he missed simple intimacy (not sex per se). My eyes have really opened a lot to his needs, as I realize he is hurting just as much as I am over the affair. I am encouraged and helped greatly by the articles on this website. I know now it is REALLY POSSIBLE to have an even better, stronger marriage in the long run. We will never let anyone come between us again, and I hope the day is coming when I won't think about it all the time anymore, or when I do, that it won't hurt as much. My husband of 27 years confessed to a brief affair (2 months) about six weeks ago, and ended the affair. He is deeply remorseful, can’t understand why he did it (co-worker, having trouble with an abusive spouse), and has been completely open and honeset about everything I ask and want to know. We talk every day. I didn’t know if I could every get past the pain or be able to trust him again. We have had such a great marriage for all these years (which he agrees is true), and we had always sworn never to forget that the foundation of the family is the husband and wife……and yet, in retrospect, we did indeed let “life” get in the way. Work, children, busy schedules, being tired, etc. Somehow we allowed our “alone time” to be eroded away without even noticing. And even though my husband accepts all blame (which he should), I was very surprised through the course of our frank discussions to find how much he missed simple intimacy (not sex per se). My eyes have really opened a lot to his needs, as I realize he is hurting just as much as I am over the affair. I am encouraged and helped greatly by the articles on this website. I know now it is REALLY POSSIBLE to have an even better, stronger marriage in the long run. We will never let anyone come between us again, and I hope the day is coming when I won’t think about it all the time anymore, or when I do, that it won’t hurt as much.

]]> http://www.infidelity-help.com/blog/2008/03/23/infidelity-3-key-points-in-the-emotional-affair/#comment-25271 Nancy Thu, 25 Sep 2008 11:14:05 +0000 http://infidelity-help.com/blog/2008/03/23/infidelity-3-key-points-in-the-emotional-affair/#comment-25271 I have not been able to label the type of affair my husband has experienced. It feels that every type has some semblance of his world attached. THEY work together. He has refused to "be rude" to her. He continues to allow her to depend on him. He has told me repetedly that they are not intimately involved any longer. The past lies make trusting difficult for me. Nancy I have not been able to label the type of affair my husband has experienced. It feels that every type has some semblance of his world attached.
THEY work together. He has refused to “be rude” to her. He continues to allow her to depend on him.
He has told me repetedly that they are not intimately involved any longer. The past lies make trusting difficult for me.
Nancy

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